As someone navigating the challenges of mental health, I've often asked myself: does my mental health define who I am? For many young men like myself, aged 16-21, the statistics can be daunting. But I've learned that these numbers don't have to dictate my life. Instead, they can serve as a catalyst for change and growth.Â
I've come across various studies and articles highlighting the mental health struggles faced by young males. It's a sobering reality that many of us are at risk, yet we often hesitate to seek help. The stigma surrounding mental health, especially among young men, can create a barrier that seems insurmountable. I’ve been there, and my mental wellness journey continues.Â
I am very open about my depression and anxiety and am fully aware that my honesty may make others weary of my capacity to navigate through stressful situations. But acknowledging my depression and anxiety was my first step towards healing, building resiliency, and fostering open conversations that quite frankly, are not often encouraged because our society is not comfortable with the subject of mental health, particularly when it comes to men. My ability to fully acknowledge my feelings (and fears) makes me stronger, not weaker.Â
Seeking help is one of the bravest steps one can take. For me, seeking help led me to recognize and fully use my support system: my faith, family, friends, girlfriend, and therapist. I have become more self-aware and able to understand my thoughts, feelings, actions and how they impact my behavior. Most importantly, I learned how to cope with negative thoughts brought on by depression and anxiety.Â
One of the ways I've found solace is through music. It is more than just a passion—it's a lifeline. Whether I'm creating or listening, music allows me to express emotions that words sometimes can't capture. It's a powerful coping mechanism that helps me navigate the complexities of mental health, providing both an escape and a form of self-expression. My songwriting was born out of journaling; something my therapist suggested as a way to process my emotions.Â
“Surrender," released in August of 2024 is one of my most personal songs - one that was conceived out of a dark space but relays a message of hope. As I continue to strengthen the foundation that my mental wellness stands on, I see light where I once saw darkness. And so, Surrender is about letting go of the things that are out of your control, holding on to your faith - whatever that may be - and trusting in the fact that you are not alone in your journey. There is light at the end, but you have to keep moving in order to reach it.Â
It may not be convenient to talk about mental health and it may downright scare some people off. But as a mental health advocate, I don’t have a choice. It’s not about convenience, it’s about conviction. And so I urge you to not stay silent and I remind you that you are not alone. Speaking out is not a sign of weakness but testament to your strength and commitment to your well-being. My mental health doesn't define me, but how I choose to address it does shape my journey and maybe my lyrics will resonate with others facing similar struggles. Â